Do We Ever Overcome The Loss Of Our Mother?

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Christine_Queiroli]Christine Queiroli Are you fortunate to have your mother still in your life? Do you ever wonder what your life will be like without her in it? Everyone has different feelings on this but I believe we all can relate in one way or another.
Being one who has lost both parents, I would like to share some feelings and thoughts of what comes later. I was 32yrs. old when my mother was diagnosed with colon and liver cancer in January of 1988. The doctors told us she had around 3 months left. Back then it was something that I never wanted to think about. As I was growing up I can remember getting physically sick at the thought of losing my mother someday. When it entered my mind I would do anything possible to get that thought out of my head. I can't speak for other nationalities but for most Italians our mothers are the most important person in our lives whether we admit it or not! So, I wanted to be there and take care of her as much as possible. I remember working 12-14 hrs a day, 6 days a week at my job, then leaving work at night, going straight to the hospital and sleeping on the chair all night until the next morning. I'd leave the hospital, go home to get ready for work again. It was like that every time she was in the hospital. When she was home she slept on the couch because it was more comfortable for her. I slept on the floor next to the couch just in case she woke up and needed me. I would bathe her, give her shots for the pain, change her colostomy bag and anything else that she needed me to do. Even though I wasn't the best daughter growing up, I can say from my heart that I was there for my mother when it was most important and I told her everyday how much I loved her. After a 24 month difficult battle, my mother passed away at home, on the couch, in my arms. I will never forget that night or the look on her face the second before she passed. She was the most beautiful, loving, giving person in the world to me and our family.
After my mother's passing my father was so lost. They had been married just over 40 years and were never apart. I had to make a decision at that time to stay with my father or leave and begin the next phase of my life. Thinking hard about it I decided to stay with my father to help him adjust to the loss of my mother, his wife.
For the first few weeks we were both sort of numb. I didn't go to work, stayed in my room day and night only talking to my best friend and a couple family members. It had seemed like her death hit them almost as hard.
That was 23 yrs. ago and I still think of all of her support, courage, strength and friendship, but most of all, I can still feel the warmth, the softness, and the love in her hugs as if she were here with her arms around me.
Do we ever overcome the loss of a mother? I never have, I just have learned how to keep her close in my heart so she is with me every minute of every day!
So, to all of the daughters and sons who still have their mother in their lives, remember to forgive her when she makes you mad, to be there for her when she needs you, to comfort her when she is sad, to show her how proud you are that she is your mother, and when the first time comes to leave your home, don't forget to keep doing all of these things, and most of all remember to always tell her how much you love her because that's exactly what's she done for you your whole life.
And, if you're too busy or you just put it off, remember someday it might be too late!!
Love to all who have lost their mother.
If you have a story, or you would like to share something about your mother, or give some advice to a son or daughter, please do so.
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